on my mind are a hundred things

to start with, the song 'you are always on my mind'. the version by petshop boys. because there are memories with that one. very nice, nostalgic ones.
a menu for tomorrow night. am having a few people over for dinner and i haven't thought about what to dish up.
three different people told me i looked good today. some day people will stop complimenting me, and how will i cope then? :P
last evening, which was a wonderfully relaxed chat and dinner with a genuinely warm and nice couple that i am growing increasingly fond of.
i completed the above sentence with a preposition. my bad.
'sherlock' on bbc didn't get recorded on my tata sky+ last sunday; i wonder why.
i need to buy new perfumes. this time i will try 'happy' from clinique.
maybe sunday should be shoe shopping day too.
my cell phone has conked off.
some new choices that may or may not come up. and which will, either way, be a pretty difficult time for me.
questions about 'am i really good enough'.
comfort zones and whether you need to get out of them. or just expand them to include more things.
earning LOTS of money and how the definition of LOTS changes.
there's nothing in the fridge tonight.

free advice?

i confess, i am not a natural at spouting words of advice.
it's not that i can't. it's just that i cannot simply parachute into someone's situation and tell them how to handle it - i believe it may be rather insulting to be at the receiving end. nothing, well almost nothing gets my goat faster than people offering unsolicited advice to others.
being well brought up and naturally civil though, if i get free and unasked for advice, i grin and bear it and usually even heed the bits that sound good. so my problem is not with the advice bit, it is with the 'unsolicited' bit.
and my problem is not so much with the receiving bit, as it is with the giving bit.
i would rather watch someone fail than give them unsolicited advice.
which sounds weird, even to me. but i believe that each one of us makes the best choices possible given the situation. you know yourself the best, you know your strengths, your weaknesses, your constraints, your aspirations, and most importantly, you are the one who lives with your choices and their consequences.
if i am asked for advice, i promise i do my very best, i take more efforts than i would for myself, and i will try my best to figure out the best possible thing to do. but no, not unless i am actually asked for it.